Dating

7 Unique Ways to Meet Gay Men

When it comes to gay dating, Grindr is usually the first thing that pops to mind. It is a valid point, of course, but there are other options you can try, too. After all, more options mean more chances to find your Mr. Right. Here are 7 unique ways to meet gay men and improve your dating life.           

1.    Take part in LGBTQ+ volunteer work

Sharing the same interest as someone is one of the reasons to start talking and bond. By joining LGBTQ+ volunteer groups, you can meet gay men that share your passion for volunteering.

This is also a great way to get to know the issues and causes that need help, as well as be more involved in the community. If you are an introvert, then this may be a perfect way to open up and become more social, while doing something good for others at the same time.

2.    Try online dating

Online dating is one of the most approached ways to meet new people, experiencing the increase of users during the coronavirus pandemic. Some dating platforms are not exclusively for gay men but include other members of the LGBTQ+ community, as well as heterosexuals.

Besides Grindr, you can try other apps, like Scruff and Hornet, as well as dating sites, like Match.com. EliteSingles and Zoosk are two more apps to try with millions of visits per month. Our advice — try more than one to see which one fits your personality best. Most of them offer free membership and premium features available only to those who pay a monthly fee.

3.    Meet gay men through friends

By expanding your social circle, you also increase your chances to be introduced to potential dates. For example, you can meet your future boyfriend at a friend’s party or by attending a gym with them. This is not the only reason you should socialize.

New people in your life can be an excellent support system for heartbreak, doubts, and moving forward. Sometimes, all you need is a “push” from a friend to take the first step in approaching a guy.   

4.    Accept blind dates

Blind dates can be frightening, but also exciting. If you feel uncomfortable meeting men this way, accept only matchmaking from people you trust. That way, you will know that they paired you up with someone who has similar interests or has what you look for in the men.

Even if you don’t click with a guy, you have no obligation to call them after this blind date. From start to end, blind dating is about getting to know a person and deciding whether you are attracted to them. If not, you can go separate ways or remain friends.                           

5.    Turn to dating agencies

Dating agencies are more comfortable for people who like the personal approach, instead of only algorithms finding their match. This is also a much better option for those who moved to another city or country and are still getting to know the area.

For example, hiring a gay matchmaker New York can help you meet men in Sydney or Hong Kong without the worry that you will be stood up. Unlike dating apps, real people work to find you a potential partner based on individual interviews and careful matching with men already in their database.       

6.    Visit events for the gay community

Certainly, there are events for the gay community in your city, like parties and shows that you can check out. Even a gay pride parade is a good way to meet men and expand your dating pool.

Some cities even have festivals, like Market Days in Chicago with crafts, performances, non-profit organizations, and other programs. If you are creative, you can participate with your art or products, which will draw more attention to you and be a great icebreaker for conversations.

7.    Go to gay bars and clubs

Nightlife is one of the most common ways to meet other people. Music, neon lights, cocktails, and dancing will help you relax and talk to other men there. While it’s mostly seen as a great way to have a one-night stand, this is the best option for those who are only interested in casual sex.

On the other hand, some bars organize gay speed dating events so keep an eye for those if you are looking for a more serious hookup. Unlike online dating, speed dates are about being in the moment and having fun getting to know someone in person.

In the end

A person can put a lot of pressure on themselves when it comes to dating. From high expectations to fear of not being good enough, a lot of things can get in a way of meeting a great guy. These ways to meet gay men can work only if you are open and ready to put yourself out there. Remember, fortune favors the bold!